Hello all .Im new here and have a very complex sitch.My wife of 18 years has been having a affair for over three years . T his is very complex turns out the 2 year 3 month old D is not mine and that breaks my heart even further!She has a list of bad relationship offences that are a mile long which are basically communication breakdowns on my part.We are both 42 and have been together 21.5 years with a step D 22 S20 S 17 She has cheated repeatedly on me plus obviously got pregnant to the OM. She left me after me disputing the paternity orally .She expects me to take my personal effects and give her the house .She initially gave me three weeks to move out but I refused she then moved in with her mom . Sons want nothing to do with her. Sitch is bad as I'm attached to daughter and she is making it hard for me to see her . She hasen't filed yet either and it's been 26 days since she left!She works for a Christian school as a preschool teacher and I called her pastor and told him the sitch and told him I want R . given the circumstance he is given her the choice of repent and reconcile or basically job loss and excommunication from church in about three steps.Today went to pick up D and OM was at MIL so I introduced myself to him a major conversation ensued and I pulled him aside and tried to explain the gravity of the sitch to him very calmly basically every thing got aired out and she said she would not go back to me under no circumstances listing every reason that you can imagine. Now what do I do ? This is so hard because of kids involved also she states I never loved her! Any suggestions please
