Your distinction between behaving like a husband or a butler is helpful - thank you.
I had application for it this morning, when I brought my W tea, asked what she wanted for breakfast, brought it to her, and then left. A few minutes later I realized a husband would have brought his own breakfast up also, and stayed with her. Next time will be better!
Of course, I intend to carry my load in the household, but this needs to be done in the right, not subservient, way. As my T said, "take space!" (assert yourself, be there!). Butlers are mostly invisible, husbands are not.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
