Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

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HWA,

I have to pull the 2x4 now – sorry!

If the role was reversed and the W put a picture of a similar tattoo on Facebook, the family would reply with "likes" and comments.

Mindreading! I am not sure you are right on this one! That picture was not a picture but a statement!
Read your posts again. Do the thinking once more! What do you believe a picture like that signals to the world! It was only out there for an hour but everybody knows!

No one mentioned or complained about the W changing her status from married to separated, and the same message was also sent to all friends on facebook.

IMO you can’t compare this to the FB-picture. She left you and then changed her status – there is nothing wrong in doing the status change. That’s her status in life and on FB. Why would anybody complain?

That friend that deleted you on FB - I know this is something you don't want to hear but I don't think he wants to talk to you anymore. I know because this has happened to me. I would now go dark on your friend as well and see if he contacts you.

I have to disagree. Going dark is LRT – LAST resort technique!!! LAST!!! If this is a dear friend there must be something in between.
What do you think going dark will accomplish?
Why would you go dark?
You have tried calling – send a text and ask friend to call you and then leave it there – but do not go dark.

Please don't be so hard on yourself HWA. I agree it wasn't such a big deal really. People need to get a life and not be so critical and negative, you know better than that by now and I know you can and will forgive them.

I agree fully on this one but also need to add that it doesn’t matter how you, I, GB, we looks at this. What matters in YOUR head right now is how everybody else looks at matters – so YOU change how other peoples POV affects YOU or YOU change YOUR acting’s – YOU can only change YOU! You can shake your head, bend over, break a leg and it won’t change a bit and then you can accept your doings and the results from these and then learn and adjust according to your wishes. This is about your doings and your perception of others! Do not make it about them – it won’t change anything!


HWA – You made a mistake! Learn from it and then leave it be – you can’t change it!


END OF 2x4


This is not a scorecard and poor me.
I know – It would have been some months ago but you a beyond this right now! I simply think it is you looking for reasons in a place (other people) where you won’t find it instead of looking where you will find it.

I will keep my fingers crossed in regard of the transfer – you will know soon – right?

I hope MrBond will look in on you again! I still just a newcomer compared to him! Do remember!

F