GM - the spewing phase where they are bullying and harassing us is very hard to bear. All I can say is that it goes away eventually. I think it is better post divorce, because they have what they think they want. They can get mean again when they start to discover they haven't got what they want, but by then the dust has settled, and we have moved along emotionally, so it is easier. Divorce on its own is bad enough without all the additional mean behaviour.
I have to come to see that the aggression probably comes out of their inner conflict. A conflict they are likely unaware of directly. But it is impossible to see it at the time, and as I said, very hard to live through.
