Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

[TryingToDo180]

Hi HWA, I've read some of your threads. I can't read them all as it would take too long. Anyway.your sitch sounds a lot like my sitch. Going back to your W's letter in your last thread, my H is saying the same that he knows I love him but I didn't show him.
That friend that deleted you on FB - I know this is something you don't want to hear but I don't think he wants to talk to you anymore. I know because this has happened to me. I would now go dark on your friend as well and see if he contacts you.
With my friend, it was weird and I don't know to this day why she deleted me and blocked me on FB. All she has said was that she was friends with both of us and she doesn't want to be in the middle of all this. She won't be in the middle of it as H never contacts her and hasn't done since we split up. She never answers her phone or texts to me and today I saw her at this Church Fete. It was very awkward for me as she was obviously avoiding me, so I just ignored her.
Like you I feel that my H is never coming back and he's made his decision. I'm giving him time and space to sort through this, however long it takes. I'm hoping it won't take longer than a year, I'm going to review how I feel after a year and then I may give up. That is not to say that I'm not doing my own thing, GALing or DBing. I'm always doing something and I'm never in! One thing that my H hated, but I've not really 180'd this one.
Oh yes and the other similarity is how the family have treated you. My family is exactly the same. The other day my mum asked me how H is getting on with his new business. I said very well, he's got lots of work in at the mo. She then said it's a pity that he can't do work at our house isn't it? When he didn't have a job and was working on the house, she'd find something else to moan about him. I've not yet told my parents that he's left me as I know their reaction will be negative and I can't cope with that as I still want to get back together again. I know that if I did tell them and then we got back together again, they'll make our lives a misery!
I could go on about my family but it's your thread and I feel like I'm highjacking it. I just wanted to point out the similarities between your sitch and mine. I just found myself nodding and agreeing with you on everything you said about the family. My MIL thinks that my parents have contributed to H wanting to leave me.