"What I was trying to say with regards to others though, was not their faults towards themselves as seen by me, but more the way they are quick to find my faults. If that makes sense? "
Yes it does. And then you need to remember the number one tenant of DB. You cannot change others, just yourself. If that's the way they choose to be, then that's all on them. You're the one who is growing and becoming better. And it's not necessary for them to acknowledge it.
I wanted to add to this, as it still worries me about how I have dealt with the family over the years. If the role was reversed and the W put a picture of a similar tattoo on Facebook, the family would reply with "likes" and comments. With me, everything is always taken as a negative. This is not a scorecard and poor me. No one mentioned or complained about the W changing her status from married to separated, and the same message was also sent to all friends on facebook. Sometimes, well most times, it feels that I cannot do anything that be seen as positive with the family, it is always taken as a negative. Buy a new house, you wasted money. New car, you don't need one. Running/exercising, you spend too much time doing things. Even our last big holiday together, I got the W and I a balcony view room on the cruise, no I should have got the el cheapo room where the penny pinchers (some of the family and friends) stayed. It was ok for the in-laws to have the same room type as us, just not us. Anyway, enough whingeing. Back to PMA and GAL's. Another gym session today (chest and abs) then a 13km run, guitar practice and relaxation. Six pack is slowing starting to appear, just got to stop buying the ice cream when it's on sale.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
