Turtle Goddess she of the hard shell soft

[RosaLinda]

Oh J, that is awful. Please know that nothing you did brought D19 to this place. It's more a function of getting in with the weong crowd and personal choice. 

Hopefully a few days in jail will wake her AND H up to what is real and important in life! My older son got thrown in jail for a week after some experimenting with drugs and reckless driving, and was petrified straight by the experience. 

Snodderly Cadet is absolutely correct. An individual came begin a mlc and somewhere in the crisis something will snatch them out of it, i.e., will delay the process. Sometimes, it is a death, a health issue w/that individual or w/the spouse, child leaving home, but it is something that interrupts the process. Later on, they will pick up where they left off and generally it is far worse than the first time around. This is one of the reasons that we caution posters about trying to rush the process and/or try to shock them out of the crisis. The best thing that any of us can do is to allow them cruise through their crisis on their on, in their own time. It is far, far better that way.

Thanks for posting this Snodderly. It goes a long way to help us stand and not impede their spinning at all

J I'm so sorry you H's crisis will be worse second time around. My H's is too. He previously only had EAs and now moved into the big time with his PA. And is 20x nastier at times, and 20x more depressed. Hang in there, you are your family's rock J.