Strange how for all three of us our H's seem to think that their financial problems are linked to their marriages but then find themselves worse off with the OW than with us. Maybe that's karma!
Yes, H and I have money problems - we've just entered into a debt settlement program to sort ourselves out. From what I've heard OW is a gold digger, so I'm guessing that H has been flashing cash and she thinks he's her meal ticket. Another theory from someone who's met her is that as her son is almost at the age where her child support is going to stop, she's looking for a replacement source of money. Bet she doesn't know the truth about H's finances - he spends more than he earns and he's just had to give up his credit card and line of credit for the debt settlement plan. And I haven't even started pushing for the child support he owes yet - that's currently under negotiation.
TTD180, sorry to hear your H is letting your son down. You're not alone in that - mine manages to fit in 4-5 hours at most once a week if S13 is lucky. H has said he might come swimming with us one night this week - we'll see if that actually happens.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
