Hi Rick1963 thank you for visiting my thread! I hear you. I want nothing from my H either, and I would love nothing more than to go on with my life and never hear from him again, but I have my kids to think about and my IC says asking H to step up and take some of the load is not only good for me but more importantly good for them. He may not be there the way I want him to or wish he would, but he's still alive and able to spend some time doing things they need, even if he didn't come up with the idea himself.
I don't think that relates to your sitch, and I think your W sort of automatically picked up time with your D for whatever it's worth, so it's not a commentary on your sitch or your choices at all.
If I did not have kids with H my story would have been a lot shorter. Frankly, I'm glad it had to get stretched out over so long because I'm a better person for it. I wouldn't have felt compelled to get so emotionally healthy if it weren't for the kids.
Anyway, what's cookin lately?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
