Wow lil turtle, you really have come a LONG way, and grown A LOT.

I'm impressed with how you handled your conversation with H. DB master for sure!


Originally Posted By: tori2012

So the Q to you is:
1. What are your values.
2. What is your position about this M?
3. What would it take for you to not be "done"?

It's important you answer these questions to know what to do next. If you are really done, continue the meetings w the mediators. If you're not sure, wait and let him initiate any D proceedings and continue DBing with a open mind.

Hope this helps.

R w cute neighbor? Not a good idea in my eyes. But again, only you know what you want and what you need.


^^^Like.

You're still married so why would you have OM? My concern is that people end up using the confidence they get from OP as a crutch to help them be strong when dealing with their S. So what have they really learned? That they need someone else to make them feel good about themselves and their life?

To me, this is a big mistake, because when that new relationship fizzles out you're back to square one.

Could you have conducted the same conversation with H if you didn't have OM in your life? I hope so.

You've come this far and grown a lot. Know that you don't need anyone else's validation or attention to be happy. Be strong on your own.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl