How can you mend a broken heart?

[RosaLinda]

I worked the overnight shift at the ER Thursday night. It was so difficult with this double vision. I have a follow up appt with the specialist on Monday. I guess I'll have to schedule the surgery. And guess I'll have to recover in England! I wonder if there are any restrictions against flying after eye surgery. 

Last night I went to a pocketbook party at my SIL's house, my H's sister. I thought it would be a fun GAL, and it was, lots of eating and drinking and laughing. Shopping therapy with cocktails! 

But afterwards my SIL and MIL ganged up on me with an unbearable show of compassion and love trying to convince me to kick out my H. I though my MIL understood my DBing principles. Guess I was wrong.

I am all for "keeping the road home paved smoothly" so the MLCer's return is smooth and easy. And for suffering in silence (in principle anyway) keeping the MLCer's secrets away from his family to protect him. 

Unfortunately for my H, his family is loud, loving and close. He keeps doing things very much in the public eye, and his family notices. Acting strange at parties and events. Saying he is going to pick up his "Russian friend" at the airpirt and disappearing for 2 weeks because "she said she was not interested in meeting any of you." I bet. And now this trip to Russia for a month to visit the same "friend." He seems to think that his family should view it as a normal vacation away from his wife, and accept it because it's something HE has always wanted to do. 

His family does not know all the private stuff, the professing to be in love with the Tramp, the fact that she wants to marry him to get a green card. But they do not swallow H's assertion that going away for a month is a normal natural thing to do. Luckily my own family is spread all over the country, so it's easier to hide the MLC from them. 

I guess MLCers who have EAs or secret PAs while living at home have an easier time hiding their OP from their extended family. My H's family had no idea about his EAs for the first 3 1/2 years of his MLC. 

How do all of you deal with flack from your spouse's family? Or your own?