Careful with that curiosity, I hear it can be dangerous.
I get the hug thing. My H has not been a hugger for some time, but hugs say "I care". And that is what I miss, a feeling of care, of being cherished. Receiving and giving a connection.
Take care.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.