It is their total absence of compassion that causes me to think there is something very wrong with them. It is the ones who feel bad about what they are doing, and admit it, then go on doing it that are more perplexing.
To this day my xh has to have it explained to him very clearly that he hurt people A LOT, and you can see he is puzzled and not faking it. I do not do this of course, but his kids do, and he clearly doesn't understand. But he used to understand. I really wouldn't have stayed with someone who had no compassion and no empathy.
Anyway just to say that being able to laugh at his craziness was very liberating.
Every time anyone challenges my xh on any aspect of his behaviour with examples, he spends quite a while constructing a rational and yet mad answer about why he did it.
I find it interesting why Mr Hyde has taken over. One explanation is that the more horrible they were, the harder it is to actually do anything about it. So that perhaps the meanest MLCers find it hardest to come out of MLC. Taking down those defences, and admitting the hurt they caused is well nigh impossible.
