"It seems often the only way they wake up is when they realize that we are not available anymore."

This hasn't gone unnoticed by me. I do believe it has to be real though, we have to be truly "done", and content with that decision. And they have to be ready to reconsider. If we're playing the "no longer available" card just to try to win them back, they'll know, and it likely won't get us the results we are looking for.

It also seems some figure out they want back in the M without us becoming "unavailable". RH's H comes to mind. And now maybe T2's W.

I'd hope to hear other thoughts on this topic.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl