Your H is still very confused. When I first found out about Joe's EA (before it turned into a PA) I said I was willing to work on things if we saw a counselor. He said he wouldn't want that and just wanted to live in the house but as a "single guy" so he could do whatever he wanted. I said no, so that's when he moved out and started the PA a week after. I've thought about my decision and wondered whether that was a big mistake. The answer is, I couldn't have lived with a man who just wanted to be single bc it violated my values.
So the Q to you is: 1. What are your values. 2. What is your position about this M? 3. What would it take for you to not be "done"?
It's important you answer these questions to know what to do next. If you are really done, continue the meetings w the mediators. If you're not sure, wait and let him initiate any D proceedings and continue DBing with a open mind.
Hope this helps.
R w cute neighbor? Not a good idea in my eyes. But again, only you know what you want and what you need.
