"More intimate stuff doesn't exist right now."

Then why don't you slowly increase the intimacy of the conversations. Start slowly talking about more than just the weather. Ask your W for her feelings slowly and see where that leads. It won't be immediate, but give it a couple of weeks and see if it works.

Either way you have to stop acting like the help and start acting like an individual.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER