I am ALLLLLL in with Another Stander. I feel that you need to continue your path. I feel that you really need to cool your jets on OM, and focus 100% on how you want your marriage to play out. This is the real deal. Don't play games right now. Keep your head clear, your heart open, but at the same time stay detached and busy. Now, don't get me wrong. I would not even consider Husband as an option, unless he does his work and comes back to you with a passion. I would be very sure his intentions were clear and deliberate. At that point, the choice is up to you. Make sure you choose wisely! Personally, I would be thinking about something else that AS said.....man! That As is a smart one!!!! Like AS mentioned in another thread, I would have some serious questions for Husband, if he does wish to reconcile. I would want to know WHY he wants a relationship with you now. I would want to know WHAT he plans on doing differently this time around. I would want to make it clear that you are not up for being plan B, and by no means are you willing to put your heart on the line again, for him to do a two step right out the door when the mood strikes him. You can fill in whatever questions and answers you would need to feel confident in making your decision. Hold no expectations that you will ever get an opertunity to even have this conversation. Husband may very well be on his way towards establishing a new relationship with another OW. You keep your focus on you, and you let him do his work. Just don't shut that door unless you can tell yourself that you are 100% done with your marriage, for you as well as your children.
