Fantasy meets Reality

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Snodderly,

Yes, I agree. I need to change things around a little. Even suggest that he use the library. I can tell you that he's already joked that if I'm not here he plans on sitting in the driveway and using my internet! Crazy man!

He called very early this morning and told me that he was on his way back to the house (mine) because public transportation was running 35 minutes behind schedule. (I checked it out on the county website and it was true.) He said that he had a conference call within the hour and needed to use Skype or a private telephone for it. The library doesn't open until 9:00am here and he uses that as one of his excuses. Also, he links into his company computer which requires a secure and private access/connection. He won't find that in a public place. I can't see him doing a conference call from a public place either. You're right, if we go our separate ways then he will have to find an alternative. He wouldn't even consider that I wouldn't allow him to sit in the driveway to make his calls and steal my internet connection. LOL

He did his conference call, did his email, had a few other conference calls staying for about 3 hours. He had another conference call and it would have been longer if I hadn't told him that I had somewhere to go. I had my keys in hand and was ready to lock the door behind us when he asked me if I wanted to go to breakfast with him. Testing me?, determining whether HE was more important than what I had to do? Control? Yep, all of the above. I read him well and he knows it. Btw, I didn't accept his invite.

kml, Funny that you should mention the lingerie. I had a frilly little thing hanging in the laundry room and had left the door open on purpose. He has to walk by it when he comes through the back door which was/is his usual "path". Not too long after that he asked me what my plans were for the weekend. Very casually and acting as if he didn't care, of course. I keep forgetting about the flowers. That really seemed to get him last time. I'm not above being evil either so don't apologize for one minute. I don't want to overdo it but will have to think ahead a little more and occasionally come up with something different.

For the past month or so, he's been holding back the urge to touch me. I catch him pulling his hand back as he passes by me. After we walked out of the house this morning I stopped to pick something up from the garage floor and I guess it was just too tempting NOT to lightly pat my behind. Then he mentioned something about Sunday dinner. I was in a hurry so I didn't respond other than to say that I wasn't sure. The ow can't be leaving again this soon so I have no idea what he has in mind.

At times, I sense a just a tiny bit of regret in his voice when he talks. I see how this (DB) works more clearly as time passes. Our behavior and how we react to them DOES make a difference. I've found that making mental notes on their responses and tweaking when necessary or trying something different is very important and does have an effect. At least with spouses like my h. Yep, he was determined to do what he needed to do to soothe the pain that he is/was feeling and I'm grateful that he moved out otherwise he would have felt trapped here and that would have meant a living he!! for me.

Thanks to all of the great advice given here, the resources that are available on this sight and the patience of the veteran posters here, I feel empowered and ready to face whatever the future hold for me. A big hug to ALL of you.