Turtle Goddess she of the hard shell soft

[mizjjd]

HI everybody! Thanks for stopping by

RL
You are such a candle in the dark. Bless your sweet and hopeful nature.

Dawn
I have been thinking of you of late. So much happening in your sitch. I pray for your continued strength.
I wonder why it seems that the MLCer with strong LBS like all of us, ever paired with us in the first place. It just seems like we are all so strong and willing to extend our tolerances that they may have seen this strength in us maybe knowing within themselves, they're not strong people.

What is it about us that may attract a SO like them and could/would we do it again. Just thinking out load here, I wonder what is it about me, looking back at old Bf's doesn't help either, it show a pattern.

I hope you good Miz, have a beautiful weekend!

I think your observation is where the co-dependent camp lives. Do we find others who are advantage-takers, or do we make others into advantage-takers? Personally I am rather introverted and prefer the shadow to the limelight - so have I been pushed into the corner or did I go of my own accord? Does being good natured and easy going bring out a monster in some? Perhaps so.
I have a friend who is EXTREMELY submissive. Always apologizing for herself. Makes me crazy. AND, it makes me aware that it is so very easy to control and bully her. I have to watch myself around her, maintain a sort of control so she can come out of her shell and express herself.
Now, while I don't think I am submissive to the same degree as she, I may be just enough to invite the monster out in my H. Thanks to this board and much inner reflection, I have identified some areas in my life that need tweaking. Hard habits to break, but I honestly feel I am making a bit of progress.
Dawn I hope your weekend is beautiful as well

Cadet and Snodderly

You suggested a new consideration for me.

An individual came begin a mlc and somewhere in the crisis something will snatch them out of it, i.e., will delay the process.

It had to be the shut down of H's business. It was a huge calamity for him. He plummeted into such a hard depression for a few months that I worried he would harm himself. Then that passed and we fell into the pattern that held for a long time, that brought us here.

Later on, they will pick up where they left off and generally it is far worse than the first time around.

Well... yee haw.

Not sure I want to know the answer, but what exactly does this mean?

Have there been other posters in this sitch?

Thanks to you all for sharing with me