One giant leap forward! - Part 4

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Start with the less complex touching. If you sense her pulling away from those kind, you will know to slow down.

As some of us have stated before, I think your W does not understand about mature lrelationship in a M. She rather have that easy flow in-love feelings without having to get down and work hard to get it and keep it.

Yes she thinks it should just happen and be naturally easy. I know she isn't the first and won't be the last person to feel that way.

Maybe that is one reason she doesn't really get why you aren't ready to jump into bed. She relates love with having sex and she therefore has a problem whenever you aren't chasing her around the dinning room table to throw her down on the floor and have sex with her. If you aren't fighting, then she thinks that's what men are suppose to do. Whatever her model was growing up, could be why it bothers her if her H isn't lusting after her.

That is exactly how she feels. Hard thing to work with if I'm supposed to be biding my time and not pursuing.
Although I do plan to push forward with the affection. I think I need to see how that goes and what her short and slightly longer term reaction is to that.

"When you say long distance do you via text/email? I wish I knew what you meant then I would understand the wink."

Yes, I was having a bit of fun with you, by suggesting long distance.

Do you believe her primary LL is WOA? More than physical affection? If so, then you need to learn how to give them to her. To me, it seems to be an art for some and a learned skill for others. But if she feels loved when you say WOA to her, then why is she not saying anything about that to you......instead of the sex?

We did the test online. We were both the same.
I do find it difficult to give WOA much without it sounding fake.

I think right now she wants WOA that relate to how attractive I find her. She seems to need it and I'm not giving that to her. Not easily anyway.

Something that I have been thinking about over the last few days is depending on how W is feeling can completely change what she thinks.
Take me for example, my opinions don't change no matter what mood I'm in happy, annoyed, angry, tired.


My W however changes hers to suit her mood right there and then.

Two weeks ago she mentioned maybe wanting another child in the future. This was the evening after the MC. She was very loving and maternal although nearly 100 miles away.

On Tuesday she was telling me that she loves being a full time M. I (very carefully) suggested that she wasn't a full time M as I have the kids on most weekends.
She said she would love to have them on weekends a lot more.

On the Wednesday after a stressful day she made a comment about how hard it would be having another child.

Today when i picked the kids up she was at her wits end and made comments about her not having the kids at weekends!!

Thats quite some mind changing going on all dependent on how she is feeling.

Is that normal in any way?

W and I have always been different in the way we think. I'm not sure if it's our personalities or I'm strange or she is strange. W lives in the moment and I tend to be concerned about whats next by looking at the past.


In regards to the weekends, I am going tackle this because she isn't changing it just to suit herself, but today wasn't the time. Saying that she might completely different tomorrow after a day off.