Blindsided Part 2

[chl0901]

So, I made a big backsliding mistake today and checked our phone bill online because I've been getting to feel "too" comfortable with how things are going lately between me and H (expectations). I felt like I needed to see how often they were texting (since it was so much before) to see if they had slowed down or stopped. I didn't see OW's number for the past 2 weeks and felt really happy (for a bit). I then saw another number I didn't recognize over and over for those past two weeks, so I began to suspect she changed her number. I panicked (dropping from my happy feeling) and was contemplating asking H about it tonight after work. Well, H called me right after this happened and I told him I have to ask him something later and he said to ask him right now and I said no because I'm at work. After going back and forth a bit, he said well text me then so I said okay. I text him and said, "I'm not trying to make a big deal about anything or accuse you of anything but what # is 555-555-5555?" He at first said, "Don't recognize the number. Is it in my phone?" so I said, "Look it up in your phone. It's there." He said, "That's [guy friend's name]'s new number. Why?" He then sent about 6 text messages asking, "Why?" and "What's the problem?" while I was deciding on how to answer. I finally responded, "I'm not trying to make you mad. I was paying the phone bill and saw over 100 text messages this week with that number and didn't know who's it was so I was wondering." We went back and forth a little bit with me apologizing and him saying he's p*ssed (surprise, surprise) and then him trying to say I'm the secretive one with my phone and he never says anything (WHAT?!). I told him he can look at my phone anytime and I have nothing to hide. He then asked me to tell him if I've cheated on him which I said no. This is still going on now. What a cluster#%*!. I knew I shouldn't have said anything, but I let my emotions get the best of me. I still don't even know if that number is his friend's or hers.