Cadet is absolutely correct. An individual came begin a mlc and somewhere in the crisis something will snatch them out of it, i.e., will delay the process. Sometimes, it is a death, a health issue w/that individual or w/the spouse, child leaving home, but it is something that interrupts the process. Later on, they will pick up where they left off and generally it is far worse than the first time around. This is one of the reasons that we caution posters about trying to rush the process and/or try to shock them out of the crisis. The best thing that any of us can do is to allow them cruise through their crisis on their on, in their own time. It is far, far better that way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
