I'm in the same place with my W, I am 99% sure she will never look back. The only reason I don't walk away myself is it breaks my heart to think that there may be a time that she DOES want to come back but that I won't want her. All the pain I've been through in the last year because of BD is something I never want to visit on another human being. But if I walk away that will be it, I will shut the door on her forever.
I am 110% certain he will look back...but we are still relatively young and I believe he isn't going to realize how much he regrets this until our kids are grown and he realizes how much he missed of their lives. I think he'll regret leaving me too...but I feel that is many years away. He already says he will regret this, that he couldn't have asked for a better wife, that he has issues within himself he has to address so that he is a worthy mate. I think he knows in his head he is messing up...but doesn't truly feel that loss in his heart yet.
Probably because he still talks to me daily. As of 23.5 hours ago I am not initiating any more contact at all and also not answering his calls. Going dark, I guess. Or dim. We have 3 kids...there has to be some contact.
