We all have those days. When I do, I combat it by making myself busy. Do something in the yard, take one of my R/C planes out to fly, detail one of the motorcycles. Do something you love!
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I had so many hopes and dreams with raising a nuclear family and felt I really had it all. It made me feel complete.
We talk about codependence like it's something evil, but it's normal and natural for there to be codependence in a marriage. The whole concept is that two are made one, you can't get much more codependent than that! It's a struggle when you separate to find your independence again. We are creatures of pattern and habit and we long to go back to the "old way" of things. You just have to redefine that though, you need to find your "new normal". At first on the weeks I didn't have my kids I felt more lonely than I ever have in my life. But slowly, I started taking advantage of that alone time to do things I never had the time for before. Now it's my "new normal". During those weeks I'm very much like the guy I was before I was married. Independent, content, doing what I want whether that's working out, messing with one of my hobbies or just sitting in a recliner reading. The flip side is when I do have my kids, I treasure the time with them even more and make quality time out of it. Before they were around all the time, so there was always an excuse to do stuff later. Not anymore!
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This is a hard way to live. When does it get better?
Everyone is on a different timeline. Just be patient with yourself and try to stay busy, you'll get there
