New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

NQ, sounds like you handled the sitch with H and OW very well. If S13 talks to you about it, remember your validation techniques, it really helps the kids when you sympathize with their emotions. You don't have to explain your H's actions, that's between H and S. Just give him emotional support.

I still want things to work out between us

Try to put that on the back burner for now, he's a long way from getting to that point.

I might drop them at the pool and go to the library next door, leave them to enjoy the pool and I'll sit and read quietly.

Great idea!

Thanks AS.

I realize he's a long way from wanting to work things out, but I'm finding patience where I didn't think I had any left.

Nothing is confirmed yet for next week. H has a habit of changing his mind, and that's not just since OW come onto the scene. S13 has been told that maybe his dad will go to the pool with him next week, and that we'd have to wait until next week to find out if and when. He seemed ok with that - think he's getting used to his dad not being around

He is a bit clingy sometimes but I'll take cuddles with my son for as long as I can - he'll outgrow wanting to cuddle with mom before too long.