PS, you've expressed some great sentiments in this thread, sounds like you're doing great, keep it up!
Originally Posted By: Positivespin
I'm realizing that as I'm learning more and more about myself - I'm resembling a MLC.
Looking for major life changes Change in appearance Increased thirst for adventure
Nah, that's not MLC, that's GAL!!! EMBRACE it! I identify MLC as crazy actions like spending money one doesn't have or alienating friends and family for no reason. NLW's husband is a classic example, her thread just leaves me with my mouth hanging open at some of the stuff he does. Anyway, there's a big difference between that and wanting to follow your dreams, which is where you are
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I was looking back - just 2 months ago, when she was still at the house and the things she did, those lies, the muffled phone calls downstairs............why the hell did I put up with it?????
We all go into this thinking we HAVE to fix this, that life without our spouse is NOT an option; and we're willing to ignore a LOT of bad behavior on the part of our spouse to make it happen. WE talk a lot around here about how the WAS is in a fog, that they only remember all the bad stuff in the M. But what we don't discuss much is the LBS is also in a fog, we remember only the GOOD stuff in the M. As times goes on the fog clears for the both the WAS and the LBS. It took me about 8 months to start clearing the fog, I can't say it's completely gone yet but I definitely do not view my W now in the same light as I did right after BD.
