And maybe it will at some point but if that point is not until he's been with her a year or two and he comes back to his family just because she dumped him...would that be OK for me? That makes me feel like I would be Plan B.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Not sure if you keep up with Turtle's thread, but she's a little bit ahead of you on the timeline and her H is showing hints of wanting to come back but she feels she may be done with him for much the same reasons you're talking about, she's not going to be anyone's plan B. You might read the discussion in her latest thread to see if any of it resonates with you. I bet you can draw a lot of strength from her comments, she's amazing!
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Most days I don't think he's ever coming home, ever so it doesn't really matter.
I'm in the same place with my W, I am 99% sure she will never look back. The only reason I don't walk away myself is it breaks my heart to think that there may be a time that she DOES want to come back but that I won't want her. All the pain I've been through in the last year because of BD is something I never want to visit on another human being. But if I walk away that will be it, I will shut the door on her forever.
