I figured half(?) of the posts in this thread were really Tour De France's thread, so T2 gets a pass. (sorry "TDF", I'm a bike guy so every time I see TDF that's what I think of)
RL, they know the old us would always do anything for them. Since we haven't bombed them, and even have improved ourselves, they figure we will continue to meet their needs forevermore.
It seems to me we must allow them to see what we can offer them in a new M, while also making them aware of what they may be giving up on.
Oh, and you'll love this one: When leaving on one of her solo vacations, W asked me if I would search and find her a nice place to move into! She was only half joking.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
(sorry "TDF", I'm a bike guy so every time I see TDF that's what I think of) 
