your H's problems go WAY beyond MLC, and therefore, are unlikely to improve significantly once he "comes out of MLC" unless he gets serious help for all of his issues - which he does't seem inclined to do.

Just stopping by to say hello Miz,

I agree with this statement for my sitch as well. MLC has been the tipping point that moved H over the edge. After all don't they say this stems from childhood issues or young life issues unresolved? There was always something about them.

I wonder why it seems that the MLCer with strong LBS like all of us, ever paired with us in the first place. It just seems like we are all so strong and willing to extend our tolerances that they may have seen this strength in us maybe knowing within themselves, they're not strong people.

What is it about us that may attract a SO like them and could/would we do it again. Just thinking out load here, I wonder what is it about me, looking back at old Bf's doesn't help either, it show a pattern.

I hope you good Miz, have a beautiful weekend!

best dm

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You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!