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[RosaLinda]

KML I guess what I'm saying is, your H's problems go WAY beyond MLC, and therefore, are unlikely to improve significantly once he "comes out of MLC" unless he gets serious help for all of his issues - which he doesn;t seem inclined to do.

So - don't wait around for the MLC to be be over - because you'll still have a guy with serious issues who is a serial cheater.

But Ellie, while J's H was a wild and crazy philanderer from 1996 to 2001 (I believe the number of EAs he reported was greatly exaggerated, as he kept changing it), he was faithful to J from then until 2012. Couldn't THAT be the real H? 

Can someone go through TWO MLCs? Or maybe go into a MLC but not fully resolve the issues, and fall headlong back into the tunnel months or years later? I THINK that's what my H did when he broke up with RT a year ago, and became Picture Perfect H for 5 fabulous months. Then wandered back into the Dark Side.

Additionally, couldn't facing the life changes and issues that enable a person to escape from MLC as a whole intact improved (I would assume moral) individual, also cause that individual to see that serial cheating is wrong?