I said.. - Sorry you are having such a difficult time. - Said it is difficult to understand each other's perspectives but that I do understand his struggle. - That I deserve someone who wants to be with me and wants to do life with me and loves me. - That I will not be Plan B for anyone. - That I will not live w him in the same house in a loveless M. - That I will not model a "fake M" for our children. - That I think children have already been through the worst--his moving out.
WOW, that is GOOD stuff!! You validated while still holding a tough line on your boundaries. WELL DONE! He has not even begun to face his mistakes, he still sees himself as the poor, pitiful victim. Lots of "woe is me" in his comments. And he STILL wants to cake-eat, wants to have a relationship of (his) convenience with you while he presumably seeks out true luv.
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I mostly just wanted him to leave so I could move on with my day.
LOL!
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but I truly was irritated by his "I don't know how I'll even get over feelings for OW comment."
As well you should be, he's basically telling you he wants to set up house with you but not to expect anything because he loves someone else. Unacceptable.
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Not really sure if I would even consider R with him at this point. He would have to really jump through a lot of hoops through a very long time.
That's a good position to be in because it makes him responsible for doing all the work. You've done your work, for R to happen he still has to do his. And he's off to a poor start.
I don't think you've seen the end of this, he's starting to come out of the fog and when he fully does I suspect he's going to be VERY committed to reconciling.
