Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

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2old, yes time does help. Time to think about yourself and how much longer you are going to put up with this crap. I still love and care very much for my W, and probably will for a long time. But I have to draw a line somewhere that I say "enough is enough". If there is no discussion, no talking, no form of communicating and on the occasionally see each other in the street, she runs away, then what is still left? Nothing.

I understand this and reading through your thread has helped change my mindset to better understand what is going on in my own journey. You seem to be growing a lot as a person through your experience, and gaining a lot of insight.

I do think there comes a point where you decide 'enough is enough'. As I stay in my relationship that day draws nearer. Things seem to be getting worse before better. My H is distant, cold, silent and snappy at me. He no longer shows me affection, unless we are ML. I have a lot of emotional stress/anxiety over what is going on between us.

At my last IC appointment I was advised to set a 'personal boundary', a timeline in which I thought I could reasonably handle living in 'limbo' without anything changing or getting better. A person can only take so much. The thing that throws us off every so often is when they start to act nicer for a few days and you wonder if things are changing.