Emotional Connection and Attraction

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You know your sitch the best and I welcome your disagreement -- I only see your sitch through a key hole.

I guess my summary is that unilateral need-meeting on your part will not incite passion. I think your W's A + B = C is wrong.

If passion is the cure she's looking for, seeing you happy without her and wondering if you need her at all is how "craving" would be 're-established. As you have identified that is high stakes poker.

Connection is wonderful and necessary -- there's a chance that establishing deep connection on an ongoing basis will make W forget about craving and affair style attraction, but that only works if it's a two way street, if she's as invested in meeting your needs as you are in hers. Otherwise you are the pursuer, she is the distanced,