round and around we go

[willbwell]

Saw attorney today. Talked numbers. H is out of town this week. Said we should discuss finances again this weekend together. We have already been emailing about this( ie health insurance, the house...)
I had asked him to slow down. H wants to move forward.
S 20 leaves for college tomorrow.
I start my classes next week.
I still want to call, reach out to h, but don't.
It's just so unfortunate.

[willbwell]

Had asked h to slow down. He said saw no reason that d was inevitable. It's so wierd how a couple goes from intense intimacy to acting like strange acquaintances. He hugs people at his work all the time- not just him .they all do at his company...it's all about "" "love""" no wonder d rate is so high! H can't hug me anymore.

[willbwell]

I'm at college getting s moved in. Miss being able to text/ callnh and tell him about this day. Want to. He's missing out... His choice I know. Just miss my friend

[littleGTO]

willbwell,

It is sad when WAS chose to miss out on important events in children's lives. Time can never be retrieved. BUt, that is part of what we have to let go of...control or manipulation of their decisions.

What is hard is to not let their lack of involvement affect our enjoyment of these special times, esp since we are the only ones trying to stand in for both parents!

BTW- nothing needs to be rushed. Do this on your own time line, not his.