ChasingPavements, you need to consider what is best for you. This may be the new job. Consider all the possible future scenarios and what could happen. If H leaves you, and then you're stuck in a job you don't like, you'll be even more unhappy?
Also, I always felt that only one of us (Me or my W) needs benefits since there is usually little advantage to both spouses have health insurance through work. Something to consider too.
