How long has your H's MLC been going on J?
Idk when to start counting from.

1992 Married
1996 Twins born, vasectomy, 1st affair(s). H attitude 180, nice to nasty
1998 First affair I find out about. H attitude increasingly nasty.
1999 H's fave sister dies
2001 H's business shut down
2012 I find emails to current OW

If I take H's word for it, he had affairs from 1996 - 2001. Idk how many. I know of 2 confirmed PA, 2, maybe 3 EA. He has confessed to anywhere from 3 - 13 - 20 additional PA's. H doesn't count EA's because he "doesn't believe in them".

From 2001 - 2012 H was "ok" by what I was used to. Not at all ok compared to what I've read here.

So Idk how long. An eternity.

You said you are reading that Munson book right?
I bought it onto my kindle but haven't started reading it yet.

I'm finishing up Cheryl Strayed's Wild: From Lost to Found. It tells the story of the author's coming to terms with her mother's death through hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. It is a terrific glimpse into a damaged psyche.

“What if I forgave myself? I thought. What if I forgave myself even though I'd done something I shouldn't have? What if I was a liar and a cheat and there was no excuse for what I'd done other than because it was what I wanted and needed to do? What if I was sorry, but if I could go back in time I wouldn't do anything differently than I had done? What if I'd actually wanted to f___ every one of those men? What if heroin taught me something? What if yes was the right answer instead of no? What if what made me do all those things everyone thought I shouldn't have done was what also had got me here? What if I was never redeemed? What if I already was?”
― Cheryl Strayed, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail


Professional ice hockey player?

Oh but RL! Don't you know, he coulda been!! Lol smile Remember, he is Canadian and did play when growing up. And just ask him, he was fantastic wink

Take care! Thanks so much for visiting. Feeling a bit of quicksand underfoot these days smirk

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.