Well my wife and I had our 10 year anniversary in June of this year but it was not at all what we planned when approaching it 2years ago we were excited but comes around May 2012 my wife and I was on the church worship team but my wife decided that she wanted to pursue a dream in music so she decided to quit the team and it seemed at that point is when she started to fall away from her relationship with God which started a chain reaction of issues, little did I know there was this coward at her job that was also pursuing the same thing and they had been going to lunch I came to find out which opened the door for her to fall a victim to deception in a vulnerable state, this coward started to spark conversation with her regarding the thing that had her heart, Music and then we wasn't seeing eye to eye so she says that was around the time she checked out of our marriage, we also have 3 beautiful children things have not been bad though we've had our issues we were ok I'm committed til death do us part but what happened to my wife? I found out about the long phone conversations in august of 2012 and confronted her and ended up breaking my hand on my fridge and was off work for almost 4 months during that time God started to deal with me concerning my issues in our marriage since have developed a good relationship with my Lord and savior but have done everything to fix my marriage to really no avail it seems it pushed her further away from me towards to the dream this coward painted for her with words she talked about our issues with him which pretty much gave him the playbook to her heart bcuz all he had to do was not make my mistakes and she stated she was swept off her feet which broke my heart and come to find out this coward lied to her about his status of being married with 2 kids she claimed he said he just had a girlfriend or fiancee but even after she find out that she still didn't end the junk claiming it was too late her heart was involved if I could go back I would but I just believe that to be immorally wrong she's married to me yet instill he came on to you don't that tell you something if he had respect for you there is no way he would have tried anything she was a target of vulnerability and he took advantage of it but now its august 2013 still in this issue I'm tired frustrated angry I have rage to beat this coward down but honestly my issue is with my wife bcuz this could have been a memory but she lets this music dream control her direction of wrong thinking this coward can help her make her dream reality when he can't so the whole grass greener junk is here, now she is claiming to want to move out to get peace and space in hopes to reconcile our marriage bcuz she don't have the feelings for me right now no intimacy no affection no love we don't kiss really this coward still works with her she knows he is still married has not filed for divorce even though he keeps saying that he wants out he also tells her he has his own apartment but he is basically still living with his wife bcuz I know where they live and have seen his car at home with his wife at 2 or 3 in the morning but my wife believes him like shes stupid I really don't get it this dude is like almost 370lbs and ugly not that it matters its ridiculous and I am trying to still make it work but separation is what she wants but for what to have freedom to be with this coward is what I think then I'm just going to give up on any chance a reconciliation I need help but the coaching I really can't afford bcuz I am still trying to catch up on bills from when I broke my hand please help I'm lost right now but I do own the books Divorce Busting and Remedy by Michelle what can I do?
