You can't. HOWEVER, you can push a little and ask him what he is still resentful of and just listen and validate. AFter he talks, go and give him a hug and tell him you understand.
Yes. I did that....he seemed to respond well to it. Just said its gonna take time. We had a night out last night for my friends birthday. He was very social and affectionate towards me. We left and finished a mini date night by seeing a movie. He held my hand the whole time. Made me blush as we never hold hands at the theatre.... Then we came home and completed our date...great day.
I feel time is all I can give him. Seems to be helping. We also had a family date with one of his friends and his family. We went to a ball game. It was great. And he initiated and set the while thing up.
We have been intimate quite a lot lately as this is one of my permanent changes I have made. He still does crack the occasional comment...."still trying to get used to this new wife of mine!" or "why did this take you 7 years..." I don't ever have a lighthearted answer so I just tell him to get used to it.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
