WAW just said that she wants to move on

[Confluences]

Hey FlyOTW~

I am apologizing upfront for being long-winded and rambling but this actually helps me by discussing it in writing, so here goes:

My situation is a direct result of small business finances/outstanding debts and the process of working on some financial instrument transactions that have taken forever to complete. My Limited JV Partner and I actually have one completed and another one in the final phases, just waiting on funds to be dispersed (this week or next week at the latest) and all of the outstanding debts will be resolved.

My WAW does not know how close we are to getting funded and I'm simply having my Bookkeeper/Accountant meet with her to show her what has been paid off without me there so that she can see the results for herself via a neutral 3rd Party. Actions speak louder than words, etc.

It's been a 3 year nightmare and I have stuck with it because I refused to declare bankruptcy because I knew doing that would be the death nail to our marriage but unfortunately this process refusing to declare it has bankrupted my marriage due to no guarantees of a completion date. It's my fault but I just need to get this done and see where the cards fall afterwards.

I have 5 people that I work with on a regular basis and I actually trust but it is a situation that we're trying to get this done and then get the heck out and move on to more stable things.

The end-game for me is to buy a portfolio of properties that I've been trying to acquire for 3 years and this will give me the money I need to bring to the table to get the financing done. It's been a painful, brutal process (due to a lot of liars, frauds, and morons that can't perform and waste months of your time) and I cannot talk about it with my WAW because she is done with the false promises that this will get done and she hates what I do worse then I hate it right now. My credibility is blown with her and I can only prove it at this point, then get the heck out of the broker game.

I know this portfolio will set us up forever with financial stability and it's something I actively want to work on to grow and manage. If we ultimately get divorced, then she will be very secure financially as a result of me seeing this through to completion and I can look in the mirror knowing that I left her in a good spot financially but I hope that she'll realize that there is a chance at enjoying a really good, stable life together.

There are no guarantees at this point that she'll actually come back around, which is why I have not seen her since 6-22-13 and spoken to her on the phone since 7-01-13...got to prove that this will be done. A very frustrating and unnerving process but actions, not words are my only option now.

Her co-worker (44 y/o) was running around on her husband with a younger OM but it lasted for a few months and no one really liked him. She had been married since 21 years old and never had a chance to live life at that age due to a kid and was in her own MLC but then she came to her senses. My WAW was 29 when she married me and was past all that but now she's getting the baby bug at 36 and if I can't get this financial situation worked out, then she'll move on to someone else that can provide for her. No pressure

That's weird that your wife is reading your posts, sounds like she may want to work things out.