You promised Not to force her to choose, and to give her time, but then you did exactly the opposite and gave an ultimatum. You were/are Not to do that or set ANY boundaries IF you are not ready for the results.
As it stands she knows all contact with OM needs to stop for her to move home. Other than that I have stopped talking and asking about him. She has time and space.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
So i don't know if you secretly wanted to end things, but so doubt it (with all the talk if MC and Retrovaille)...so that leaves me with the image if you NOT GAL and obsessing & festering and then blurting out words thoughtlessly, only to kick yourself later. It is a pattern if yours. Takes desire to change, & a plan about how you will Not repeat that same mistake again, AND also a bit if discipline to STOP yoyrsekf first --before you blurt out in pain ir anger---and ask yourself the likely outcome of your verbal outbursts...
You are very correct here. Currently I am working very hard on a PMA and it has thrown W in a tail spin as she is not sure how to handle it. She has gotten depressed and talks negative about herself, I struggle to not jump in and say no it's me that is at fault, but I think that is the cycle that we have, so I have not. It is very difficult. GAL, well that is something I admit I have yet to really do, yet I know I need to. I am focusing on my Daughters, yet I am starting to see that my life is otherwise empty. My job is completely un-fulfilling and I'm not sure how to change that.
Thank you for your advice on the other.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
