Wow J, poor OW, facing flack from her H for having an A with YOUR H!
H explains that OW is "sensitive" and "volatile" so having to deal with "all this" is hard for her and wasn't fair of me. Although he says he understands why I did it. I felt it was extremely fair. I have been on the other side - the blindsided spouse side - and personally I would want to know. My letter was basically a "heads up" to OW - H.

What does OW and her own H propose to do about it?
According to my H "they are working on it". He followed this with a snort of "good luck with that." I asked him why he said that and he said that OW has been unhappy with her H for a long time - if he hasn't been able to make her happy for years H reasons he won't be able to still. (OW MLC? I strongly suspect so)

She might make the decision for your H!
That was my hope when I wrote the letter. That either it would spur H and OW to run off into the sunset together or it would make my H mad enough that he would leave. He says it did make him mad, and I can figure out when he/they learned of my letter because there were a few days of distance from my H. But, he's still here, and is no longer distant.

that statement in itself is proof that your H is in a MLC,
I do think H is having an MLC. But I think its either an extremely long one or there is more going on for him. He's just been a donkey for far too long imho.

That is a great poem J, thanks for posting the entire thing. It made me cry!
You are welcome? Don't cry? Lol, not sure what to say. But I agree, the poem speaks to MLC/LBS sitch.

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We sold our pickup truck yesterday. The plan is to buy a gas-easy car with about half of the proceeds and put the rest in the bank.

H is considering the pizza biz again.
H is considering becoming a long haul trucker.
H is considering moving in with his parents and becoming a hermit when they die.
H is considering a membership at the local health center.

J is considering crawling under the bed.

Lol. No, not really. Well not my part. The H part has all been "considered" in the last 24 hours.
grin Whatchagonnado? Lol.

Peace!!

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.