How can you mend a broken heart?

[RosaLinda]

Nero "in response to y our question - "how to mend a broken heart" - i've forgotten a mi llion times to say "plumbers goop" - or for that matter - any of the goop line of glues. i'm pretty sure they're all the same stuff- i love it"

Plumbers goop eh? That will put all those shattered bits back together? Some of 'em are pretty much in smitherines, having been trod on and kicked around a bit too. 

Nero "throwin in my two cents on that. how the heck can you be sick, need tests, etc, dental work!! ?/ for cripes sake- in a new country- when you don't feel well anyway- with someone you don't know all that well- i'd be sooo miserable i can't even imagine how he can imagine he won't be."

Me too. He is SO miserable. I hope he feels free to take it all out on RT like he does with me. He won't be able to keep a pretense and false happy loving face up for 30 days, no way, because that is just how he is, not part of his MLC at all.  Poor ole slut doesn't know what she's in for. But she probably doesn't really care either. What is a little nastiness when you have that coveted green card as the Prize?

Brobafet "I don't think she is in a midlife crisis, I think she is a product of her environment. Having grown up with abuse seeing her parents, aunts, and uncles all cheat on each other. I think the first time could have been a MLC type situation but being 27 the first time and 30 now I don't know. And Now I realize that I'm hijacking your thread. I'm sorry. Thanks for reaching out."

You are welcome to post amything you want on my thread, any time Bro. Never considered hijacking!

If you don't think your W is having a MLC, she'd be a WAW then right? I am not up on the difference in how you handle that sitch. What are your plans?

A MLC can go on and on you know, and go thru many manifestations. My H has been at it for 4 years this minth, and I often have the same thought - this couldn't be a MLC after all this time. But then I look at his actions. He's either in a MLC or crazy. So I'm standing the best I can for as long as I can. 

TVS "you know I know about "big" trips with the OW. I definitely had a lot of stress and anxiety about it. I wondered - what would happen when he got back???

It ended up being pretty non-climactic. His demeaned had changed, he was definitely more down and depressed when he got back. But nothing major actually happened - at least that I knew about.

I'm not gonna lie... I still hope that one day I will know the truth about that trip. 

I am guessing that there are some slow, long- term effects from their trip. And I don't think they are good! 

My advice is keep as busy as possible, have fun, pamper yourself a bit. Whether its true or not, imagine them being miserable together - I know that helped me lol! 

There's so many scenarios you could imagine... Him getting his tooth pulled in some back alley dentist... Fermented oatmeal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner... RT being a b!tch and getting on his nerves..."

T! Glad you're back! How was your mini vacation? Thanks. I know your H taking FT on that beach vacation was so hard for you. I'll try to imagine your funny scenarios, your post made me laugh. But I bet these WILL be true RT is a bitch and will not be able to hide it for a month. My H is horribly crabby when he's sick and she won't let him take his medicine and will y him with fermented oatmeal instead. He wanted a taste of living like a Russian - he's gonna get it!

Wonka  "Linda, it's the fear of the unknown. Time for you to sit on the discomfort sofa and sort through these feelings. Also it is part borrowing trouble as well. Trust us when we all say that the A will burn out eventually and the trip to Russia will do your M a world of good. If not immediately afterward, then it will in time after H returns from the trip. There are just too many negatives about the trip and RT that they will eventually pull down the R and burn out. 

Be prepared for many bumps before the trip and after H returns home. Keep this in the back of your mind and remind yourself that it is not about you.

Thank you Wonka, I needed to hear this. I have a hearing this morning and was listening to the video "The Secret" in the car, about positive thinking and the law of attraction. I'm going to take their advice and stop thinking about things I'm afraid of and don't want. Namely my H no longer loving me and leaving me. For the Tramp or anyone else. And take your advice and camp out on the discomfort sofa for awhile to sort out my feelings and stop borrowing trouble. Good advice. 

I think I need focus on exactly what I do want, and visualize it like the video says to do. For the next 7 weeks I will try to visualize my H returning from Moscow with a new love and appreciation for me, emotionally and physically loyal, and ready to rededicate himself to our M. And that I regain my inner peace and happiness. whew!

I have a new GAL, just applied for a pistol permit! I've always wanted to try target shooting. Pretty excited!