Thank you so much for the reply, it wasn't easy to do the DBing and I wish it was as easy for me as you make it sound.
Update: My W and I got back from our Retrouvaille Weekend. All I can say is WOW. We finally have a TOOL to use to communicate effectively and understand what each other is really saying.
I don't want to detail the weekend out fully, but I will say that EVERYONE in piecing should try to attend Retrouvaille! Everyone coming in there seemed to have the weight of the world on thier shoulders, but by then end there was holding hands, hugging, kissing and a general sense of relief. Leaving there I felt most everyone came away with encouragement that they could make their marriages work.
We personally found that we shared the samed thoughts and ideas on topics, and our answers to questions were very simular most of the time. It showed us we have a lot more in common and are in sync more often than we every would admit.
This was just plain amazing and I thank God for the blessing of Retrouvaille. To hear storys from the lead team and what they went through and how they got their M back together was incredible.
Lastly, the lead Minstry Couple has been dealing with MS in their Family. They got together with us afterward and we prayed for Gods healing in my W life everyday. The Minister helped my W deal with the struggles she has with MS through prayer. He also gave her advice on how to love herself. Lastly, they gave me advise to help my W when she is down on herself.
It was wonderful, EVERYONE please consider participating in Retrouvaille. I now know my W and I are going to make it! We both do and this is just amazing. And even better Retrouvaille continues for us for 9 meetings on Sat. and there is a support session every month. We now have a support circle and even more things to learn and use to heal our M and make it the best it can be.
Thanks to all of you for the support and I will try to help where I can. Time to spend here is less than in the past (I spend it with my W), but I want to still help if I can. God Bless You All!
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
