Thank you so much for posting what I always consider to be such sage advice. You are a good man. When I read through your threads and the advice you post to me and others, it is very apparent that you have been blessed with a deep understanding of relationships. Your approach is never agressive or selfish but rather soft and nurturing. And in your conversations with your W, you don't tailor your words in such a way that they seem unnatural, insincere or fabricated for the sole purpose of applying DB techniques. I think this is one of the biggest problems that men have (not to be sexist but I believe women have an edge when it comes to expressing their feelings) when applying the DB techniques.
I believe I understand DBing pretty well, but from your posts, I have come to learn that it is not just knowing the DB principles but mastering the most effective delivery and application of the principles. When I am not thinking straight because I am obsessing about my sitch, I find that it feels awkward when I am with my W. I am constantly trying to plan and prepare my next comment or statement. (And our W's can sense immediately when we are not "being ourselves" around them) But when I have good PMA and self confidence, my DBing comes easier and appears to be more effective.
Well, these are some of the things that I have learned from you, "Coach Reuben", and I am very grateful!
