You sound amazing. I hope other will be inspired by reading your post. I don't know if anyone could have a better mental attitude than what you presently have. I don't know who met but they must have been a blessing to you b/c you left carrying the positive energy, joy, peace, good will toward others...especially your W. when you process these qualities, you heal faster, IMHO. You will deal with the sadness, but you have your sense of direction. That is so important b/c may LBS's are so blown to bits they afen't capable of seeing beyond their immense pain. Instead of seeking the spiritual inspiration, the stay focus on their loss, and the results are not pretty. Regrets, bitterness, anger, and several other negative qualities continue to shred what ever is left of this person who is more like the living dead compared to this fresh picture you have given to possibilities for people who decide they will love their S from a distance, and in the meantime enjoy life by freeing yourself of hatred, vindictiveness, and that whole ugly scene, and replace it by the the things that keep our soul in step with peace, joy, and good will toward others.
Whatever, wherever you found these people, I hope you can keep them near to be a source of inspiration, I just know that has to rub off on more folks around here!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!