Give yourself time to grieve. D is like a death and it is much better to deal with your feelings than to sweep them under the rug like many people do.
Thank you for the kind words about my M. I can tell you with certainty that if we didn't have children, we would be D'd. It took me too long to really get it and H never would have stuck around that long w/o children. I am so grateful I found MWD, the books and this site and I think everyone here feels that way sooner or later.
The personal growth is what changes the dynamics of the M. It will help you so much in the long run and you will be much happier for it. In the meantime, don't deny the feelings you have or think you should be past them. I am so sorry you are going through this pain and I will send prayers and positive thoughts your way.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
