~ I think you should perk things up for your next thread title - maybe something showcasing how wonderful you are like "More Than a Woman". You are more than a woman to us!
~ you know I know about "big" trips with the OW. I definitely had a lot of stress and anxiety about it. I wondered - what would happen when he got back???
It ended up being pretty non-climactic. His demeaned had changed, he was definitely more down and depressed when he got back. But nothing major actually happened - at least that I knew about.
I'm not gonna lie... I still hope that one day I will know the truth about that trip.
I am guessing that there are some slow, long- term effects from their trip. And I don't think they are good!
My advice is keep as busy as possible, have fun, pamper yourself a bit. Whether its true or not, imagine them being miserable together - I know that helped me lol!
There's so many scenarios you could imagine... Him getting his tooth pulled in some back alley dentist... Fermented oatmeal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner... RT being a b!tch and getting on his nerves...
You get the idea
~ I read the Munson book early after bomb. It was very helpful to me at the time. I think I had made a comment here long ago about that being the shortest MLC ever, and someone (Cadet maybe?) suggested that it was more likely a MLT (midlife transition).
There was a part early on in the book that upset me.
She says something about wondering if her husband was into something shady like drugs or another woman. Then she stopped herself and said something to the effect of "Did I really think so little of my husband?"
I remember bursting into tears, because yes, I did think so little of my husband. And it made me feel bad.
Truth is, I had every reason to think he was having an affair. He was/is. That's not thinking so little of him so much as facing reality.
So read the book, take what you can from it that helps you. Toss the rest out!
Hope you are feeling better and having a good day
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
