Yep! When I used to ask my H to do stuff with me or connect with me or even just be nice to me he'd ridicule me and say I should have married a gay man because that was obviously what I wanted.

Nice.

Really he did have several redeeming qualities, but he could be a real jerk sometimes.

I just emailed him to ask for a spell Saturday night. I'm going out to see Buffet and tailgate before, just need someone to make sure there aren't any parties at my house. He'll be sitting here by himself if he comes, I did make that clear, because S13 is gone to camp and S15 will be in and out, mostly out.

I was going to offer that it was fine if he couldn't, I'd find someone who can, but I held off on that. I really think he can just help out sometimes. We'll see if he's available before I offer other options.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.