Emotional Connection and Attraction

[BC39]

I'm overwhelmed and confused.

I understand everything your saying in theory but my emotions may be blocking rationale.... because all I think about at the moment is my W just said her current perception of our biggest problems are

1) all we have is surface conversation (emotional connection)

and because of that (amongst other things) there's no passion.

So instead of trying "fix" the surface convo (by having more meaningful conversations) I should be doing more of the same?

She changed her tune pretty quickly during that talk from "I hate talking about this" to "I'm so glad we're talking about this and it makes me feel better". Then we went home had S and shared some intimacy.....should I not be doing more of that for a while?

Its only been 2 months since she pulled back and has been "struggling". Everything was going very well up to that point. I can't help but feel its premature to separate.

Again, I believe everything your telling me and I'm probably leaving out many important points, but this seems like something I should be contemplating after she's confirmed "she hasn't felt like trying" for longer than 2 months.

She has been much better since we talked. Again, I understand she could be giving me just enough to keep me around.

The timing just doesn't seem right. I'm having a hard time explaining why I think that is. I'm always afraid I'm not painting the proper picture to get the proper advice. At the same time I don't want to be a fool in denial.

I need to go over your posts for a couple more days to fully take them in, I don't want to dismiss anything.

I probably should have waited to post a reply but I figure I'll just get my thoughts out there despite how mixed up they may be and how much of your message I'm probably missing.

My current thinking is parallel to Bonds last post.