I am a Newcomer.

[Not Quitting]

SLaA, sorry you find yourself here. You're right, you'll find a lot of support here. You aren't alone while you're on this forum.

Hopefully one of the vets will see your thread and be able to give you advice; I'm fairly new here as well.

I suggest you get hold of Divorce Remedy and/or Divorce Busting and read them. Also read Sandi's rules (posted on 1st page of Newcomers forum). Best way to get off moderation is to post little and often, even if just journalling. If nothing else, venting on here will help.

Whatever you do, don't initiate any R talk. It's considered pursuit round here. Also no more snooping - definitely not good for you. If he's seen a lawyer, you'd be best advised to talk to one - sometimes they will give you a free consultation - this will help you figure out your rights and options.

Focus on yourself - GAL, 180s, whatever you can do. Find something you've always wanted to try or something you haven't done in a long time, a new hobby or something. You're in for a long, rough ride.

Stay strong, keep posting.